Dewi Perssik:
Dewi yang ditemui usai menghadiri sidang kasus perseteruan dengan mantan manajernya, Asep Komarudin, di Pengadilan Jakarta Utara, Rabu (11/3), itu mengaku dirinya terpancing emosi dengan pertanyaan wartawan. "Dewi itu masih muda, dan suka lost control," tegasnya.
"Sekarang situasinya lebih nyaman dan lebih enak, saya juga mau minta maaf pada temen-temen semua, karena sikap saya yang tidak baik," tambah mantan istri Saiful Jamil itu.
Dengan nada suara merendah, Dewi mengaku masih banyak belajar dalam segala hal, termasuk belajar menghadapi para wartawan. Dirinya akan terus belajar, setidaknya mengurangi gaya bicaranya yang selalu meledak-ledak.
The government’s plan to ban unregistered and contractual marriages and tighten procedures for polygamous ones sparked controversy Monday among the public.
Some said the government should not interfere in the private lives of its citizens, while others said the plan should be supplemented with a revision of the 1974 marriage law.
“Marriage is an individual right. Marriage is not only between two single people, but can also be between people who have problems [with their marriage],” restaurant owner Puspo Wardoyo, a polygamist with four wives and 11 children, told The Jakarta Post.
Besides, he went on, Islamic law allowed for unregistered marriages, locally known as nikah siri, and this matter should be accommodated in the law.
The marriage law stipulates that all marriages are legal if conducted according to the requirements of one’s religion or beliefs.
“I believe nikah siri is the best way to avoid adultery, and that it's a [legal] way before a couple marries under the state law,” Puspo said.
He added his first wife had approved of his marrying other women. “Besides, I'm capable financially and spiritually to engage in polygamy, so why not share it with other women?”
Controversial dangdut singer Dewi Persik, under the spotlight after publicly revealing her unregistered marriage to her boyfriend and film actor Aldiansyah Taher, said she decided to take the move for the happiness of her lover.
“Many people consider unregistered marriages unfavorable for women, but I'd rather do it for the sake of another person’s happiness,” she said as quoted by tempointeraktif.com.
Drafted by the Religious Affairs Ministry, the religious court on marriage bill is aimed at curbing such practices and protecting women.
It threatens couples, who tie the knot without either the proper documents or the presence of an authorized religious official, with up to three months in jail and up to Rp 5 million in fines.
State officials who help administer illegal marriages would also face a maximum jail sentence of one year and/or fines of up to Rp 6 million.
The bill, submitted to the State Secretariat for the President's approval, also tightens the prerequisites polygamous marriages.
Muhammadiyah chairman Din Syamsuddin called for caution in passing such a bill into law, to avoid violating religious principles.
“What needs to be regulated is the social dimension [of unregistered marriages],” he said as quoted by Antara news agency. “Don’t try to meddle in religious realms.”
Nahdlatul Ulama deputy chairman Masdar Farid Mas’udi refrained from commenting on
the bill.
“It’s better to listen to the comments from conservatives, liberals and moderates on this issue first ,” he said.
“I will only comment after that.”
Women’s rights activist Lis Markus said she supported the government’s effort to protect women’s rights through the bill.
“Unregistered marriages are really detrimental to women, especially if they have children, because then they can't get birth certificates because legally there is no father,” she argued.
She added the move should also be followed up by amending the 1974 marriage law, which she deemed “unfavorable” to women.
Unregistered marriages are widespread in the predominantly Muslim nation because they are recognized under the religion.
A recent survey also found polygamy was a significant factor behind the country's rising divorce rate.
As a long-term dangdut fan ( I regard it as Country and Eastern; my lifelong taste for Nashville’s music translated rapidly into appreciation of the same kind of twangy, ‘achey-breaky heart’ lyrics that Indonesia’s masses love) I have taken a continuing interest in the art-form.
In my first year here, friendly locals took me to a place in Manggarai, which may well still be there- ’twas named the Sinegar, I believe. The singers there were typical penyanyi2 dangdut, slinky, recklessly attired, splendid examples of archipelagic womanhood. I learned a lot there, a fair recompense for picking up the tab at the end of an evening with my pribumi companions.
For a long time, dangdut (again like C and W) was infra dig, according to most Indonesians I’ve talked to. ‘Proper’ people looked down on it. Sanitised forms only were permitted on tv when it first came into vogue among the non-wong cilik. Haji Rhoma Irama (he of frequent matings fame) set himself up as the King of Dangdut and has done his utmost to cling to the crown, not least by demonising the up-and-coming Inul, who won popularity for dancing sexily (though Inul has not to my knowledge ever appeared scantily clad -I’m open to correction on this). Dangdut is now establishment entertainment.
Yet in the kampungs, a key part of dangdut performance has surely always been its provocative element. And that is what the kill-joys can’t stand.
What I think we are seeing in the fanatics’ threats against and abuse of the sensual divas is merely a manifestation of certain Islamists’ war on the basic, earthy, enjoyable character of Indonesia. Much as Cromwell’s grim republic banned May Day and the festive celebration of Christmas in the mid-17th Century. Merry England was outlawed.
One good reason, therefore, for solidarity with Dewi Perssik.
